I must be a horrible person in real life if the people closest to me keep walking away from me.
Don't you dare, sister.
Don't you flipping dare.
I know how you feel, because like you, I am going through pretty major crap with my parents while also going through this with my H. It stinks.
Having spent my whole life living in a "this'll do...it's okay...this is good enough," place, I'm learning that I didn't know how to use words to say "This is a little uncomfortable," "I don't like this," or "I don't want to do this."
That's a big thing to unlearn. And learning how to say those things is going to STINK. Especially to the people that I love the most, who happen to be some of the people who have hurt me the most.
Won't this be fun? No. It won't be. BUT - I hope to come out a stronger and better person for it. AND I hope to show my kids some MUCH HEALTHIER AND BETTER RELATIONSHIP TECHNIQUES!
You are not a horrible person, Maybell. You are wonderful and wise and kind.