Really, your wife needs to learn a new tune. That whole "you're so CONTROLLING!" thing is really wearing thin.
I thought, SCRIPT-wise, you handled the conversation really well. But then when the rubber hit the road, you signed on for more LIMBO. THAT is the place that's sucking the life out of you from my perspective, and I just don't see how that's a good plan for you?
Personally, I think you should do everything you detail here, plus have her served with divorce. You are at that 23rd hour where I think it's the only action, sadly, that's going to back up your "I'm moving forward"/"I will not live in an open marriage"/"I deserve more" statements.
