Tonight I'm heading over to 2 of W's friend's house to chat about the email I sent a while back (questioning our friendship after hearing they were out with W and OM). I had text them a few weeks ago asking if we could get together and just hear each other out. I expect it to be an 'agree to disagree' conversation. I have no intent on blaming or arguing- this is more to just hear each other out so we can put it behind us and move forward regardless of what happens with W and I. .. .
A friend or family member will often try to play the "I'm not taking sides here" thing to artfully get out of you trying to pin them down. What I've seen be effective is to say something like "I'm not asking you to support either me or (wife's first name); what I'm hoping you would do is support the marriage."
