We're all human and no one can read the WAS's mind so if paying the DB coach was your way of ensuring that you did everything you possibly could to repair the R, then it doesn't matter whether it pays off in a reconciliation or peace of mind. Either way you get ROI. Same with L.
Wish we weren't in this place, but I know I'm better off for facing reality and moving my life on my own path, so I guess it is what it is. I certainly feel more empowered and less stuck than I did before, and hopefully you do too.
Best to you! (and if you have more of the fantastic guy advice you've been giving Lisa, I wouldn't mind seeing you on my thread. )
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
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