It is so hard to figure out how to navigate this whole idea of letting go when my housing situation depends on him. So long as we keep everything joint and he keeps paying for mortgage and upkeep I can stay in the house. But at some point we're going to have to figure out where this is going so I can find a new home in the small area that I'm trying to stay in (for myself as well as the kids). That sort of keeps me stuck, although frankly if we end up selling the house and I get my own place it won't be any more pain than what I've gone through. I just want to know how to plan for those sorts of things. If we do sell the house, though, it will be a hurdle for him to jump if he ever wants to reconcile.
Good things are happening for me in other parts of my life, though I'm going to keep it to myself till I know more. Thank you all so much for being part of it.
Ditto on the house. I am at the point where I am ready to just sit back and watch the show. The longer this all drags out, the longer I stay in my house.
