Nitty in a Nutshell (Help! I'm in a nutshell!)

[Shakspr]

I agree on all points with CaliGuy. You are doing a wonderful job - Square One is in your rear view mirror. (Remember the day of Bomb Drop? You are not that person anymore.)

I look at D proceedings and DB'g on two parallel paths (and I know that you can too!) As long as W is talking D, I'm all business. GAL'g, taking care of my kids, creating warm positive moments at dinnertime...that's DB'g. I am going to be the best version of me there is at those times, just like you are when watching a movie with Gritty.

"He says he is confused, because we are in reconciliation and I keep "throwing out hints" that I want to D even though I say I don't."

It might not hurt to let him know, during your mediation/MC stealth missions, that when it comes to reconciling, you are a 100% ready for that with new goals and new standards if he ever wants to be married to you again. But when mediating, you won't be a pushover - just because he thought you were, doesn't make it true.

Don't blame HopeTex for the Heinlein - that was me!