H and I are really making a lot of good progress in repairing our M. Repairing almost feels like the wrong word because I don't want what we had. I want something better and stronger than before. I truly believe we are going to get there.
That being said, I'm having some personal guilt and need some advice. I have disclosed the A to 4 people. My mom and sibling because they were aware of H's strange behavior. Both are supportive of me wanting to repair our M. I think privately they both struggle with what he did, but are willing to move on if he's truly treating me well. Third, a close girlfriend who noticed how unhappy we were. The fourth was H's mom. I had no intention of telling her, but she asked me some pointed questions and I didn't want to lie. I stressed that we were both committed to saving our marriage. She knew I had been frustrated and hurt by his actions though. I have not disclosed to H that she knows. Should I?
I feel like this is a lie of omission on my part. I am thinking about telling him, but also fearful that this will undo some of the trust we've started gaining back. His R with his parents has been strained for a bit now (prior to his mom knowing about A). I don't want to damage that further either. I go back and forth about what is the right action.
We have not gone to MC yet. We are planning to start when we relocate in a few weeks.
Me: 30 H: 35 M: 5 years S2 Signs of MLC started Feb 2014 BD - PA July 2014 Piecing/reconciling late July 2014
