I think that is most difficult to accept and easiest to actually see is the person your h is right now. Do you like him?
Nope, actually I don't. When we were on our various family vacations this summer, I really tried to be objective and think about whether the man I saw in front of me was someone I'd date now or not. The answer was no. He's terribly good-looking, and while he can be really charming to strangers, he's not really all that nice much of the time. I watched him pick fights with his own mother. He and D16 got into a couple of terrible fights, her razor mouth is a match for his. He was rude to a parking garage attendant over a dollar. He's certainly not treating me with much respect. I'm just not that thrilled with who he is now.
