I no longer know if I like him. There are things that have always been important to me that I've had to do without, like the 5 year planning that rppfl mentioned in her thread. Intentionality in how we live. Snuggling on the couch happened in our early years then died out for a really long time and I don't know if it would ever come back.

If he could be the person with me that he used to be, only SIGNIFICANTLY more invested in tending the relationship, then yes, I'd be open to getting to know him again.

His priorities right now appear to be: Job. Job. Job. Self. Job. Kids. He would have to become MUCH more balanced. That is possible, if he seeks help for the ADD. Whether or not he does... well, he doesn't know it, but he's on the clock for that.

Thank you, Georgiabelle, for framing that response in a way that gave me helpful perspective.

Last edited by Maybell; 09/04/14 04:02 PM.
Me42, H40
D12, S8, S7
A revealed: 7/13
Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15

She believed she could, so she did.