you DONT ask her to come back. For one, she wont, and it will just make you look weak and sad. Second, you NEED to have space of your own. By that I mean you are hanging on to things like her sleeping in your bed and putting meaning in it, when for her there is none. Whether or not she sleeps in your bed means nothing in terms of your W and her A ending, or your M getting back on track. As others have said, she needs to miss you first.

I know it is tough. I know that even when you are getting raked over the coals by your W and her A, there is still nothing more comforting than a long hug from her, or just laying there with her head on your chest. But it is not real right now dawgy, and to think it is will only keep you in the hurt zone.

Good luck buddy


Me: 42
W: 32
Married 7 years together 8.5
S1: 7 S2:7
Bomb #1: 09-16-13
Recon #1: 11/13
A discovered 04-03-2014
W filed D 05-19-14 but never served me
I filed D 12-02-2014
S 05-31-14
Divorced 5-19-16