I agree w/you Cadet. HB did a great job on rewriting the stages as she witnessed them w/her own husband.
I, too, want to caution people that each situation is different and the MLCer will bounce back in forth through the stages and the timeframe is different for each situation. Please use HB's and Jim Conway's version as guides, and that what they've written about their respective timelines is not set in stone for others.
Not only read Jim Conway's book, but also his deceased wife, Sally, wrote an excellent book about her experiences while Jim was in MLC.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
