I think it might be wise to ask for some time to consider it? I would not ask W if she thinks there is any chance of R right now, that will push her away. I need a vet to back me up on this one, but thats how I feel. Without knowing how hard it will be on you financially, I cannot give you a good answer re: how long to wait.
M42 W40 T17 M15 S13 S11 BD 7-14 A discovered 7-14 WAW moved out 10-3-14 D final 2-23-15