Counseling went surprisingly well. H really like the MC and the MC really liked H lol.
He said some pretty interesting things to me regarding A. He told H that he needs to be a broken record to me about reassuring me. He gave me some 'scientific' explanation on why cheating shouldn't happen again. Basically H is not a serial cheater, this is the first time he's ever done this. He believes H was very depressed and was in a bad place before this happened which helped him make bad decisions. He also feels that all the things he said, did, posted on fb, his behavior etc, I mind as well considered him to be on drugs. He said he believes H when he says he was questioning what he was doing even though he was doing it. Because the shiny red Campari feels way better than the old sock you wear everyday. I thought of it as an odd analogy but appreciated him giving the other side of the story BUT he definitely did not come off as he was on H side. He really feels we are doing eveything right.
Most of our session was about the A and what happened in the last 6 months. Next week he wants to focus on what we really butt heads about and get more in depth on the conflicts that got us to that point. We did touch on it some.
He wants H to date me, to pursue me. C said he can tell I was pretty much to my done point when H came back so right now H needs to date me all over again and get me to fall in love with him. He said eventually he's going to want me to 'date' him but right now H is the one that needs to do that.
He thinks H should move back in. He said we are doing everything right and getting along. His stance is if you aren't fighting then what will a few months change. So I'm not sure how long I will wait for him to move back in. I want to see how the next few weeks go.
