I've been on this site a while (even though I haven't posted a lot) and thought it was time to move on over to this forum. I've linked to my story.
H has been involved in an EA (not sure if it has moved to PA) since January of this year. Have been trying to implement DB principals like GAL, PMA and changing things about me that might have contributed to our marital problems. Started DBing in June and unfortunately tried another marriage recovery program in July and then went back to DBing in August. The changes I've noticed are interest when I've been out GAL with friends, no further talk of D and some softening in his tone when contacting me.
To give some background for my question, our last R talk was in June and I asked him to confirm whether he was still "seeing" the OW. He actually confirmed that he was and, at that time, I asked him to leave our house (we were and are currently S) and it was insinuated that H was to not contact me. Well, I didn't stick to my no contact stance and we have been in contact since then.
I feel like things are going downhill, like he is caring less and less about what I'm doing and is losing respect for me. My question is should i plan another R talk and renew my "I don't think we should be in contact as long as you are having an A" stance? I would love some feedback on this. I have been talking with a DB coach and get the standard advice of treat him like my brother and don't bring up the R. I may be trying to rush things and am not giving it the time I should but just wanted to put the question out there and see what the vets think and what the general consensus is on this topic.
