You're not enabling W by picking up your D14 or whatever else that needed to be done for her.
You're doing it FOR D14 as the only reliable and dependable parent that she can count on to support her as she makes new transitions.
And she'll remember this for a long, long time. At some point, D14 and W's relationship will deteriorate and it will be squarely on W's shoulders for being emotionally unavailable to her own daughter(s).
So sad.
Your MOST important job right now and going forward is being the best father to your DDs.
