So...checking in to see how Nitty's doin... and Wow! She turned that corner hard. So happy to see you are coming to grips with your situation in a way that allows you to have hope while rolling with the punches. I agree with your DB coach - such an unexpected turn of events in a short amount of time. And while Mr. Gritty did go silent after movie night, he didn't carpet bomb you with crummy texts - he spoke well of you to your son!(again, who cares what he told him. It wasn't an attack or belittling you. Heck, the conversation he was having with himself in his mind while you watched Ghostbusters or whatever may have been very pleasant.)
You mentioned something rather poignant "like I'm on the other side of the D already, at least, emotionally. At least, today it did." String enough of those days together and that lens you're looking through will get clearer and clearer. Excellent approach. No expectations is my toughest mantra right now. Good to see that you are on track.
Hopetex...I guess I'll need to reread Wild at Heart. It's been a couple of years. Thanks for the reminder! Here's one from one of my favorite authors (though I disagree with much of his worldview):
Heinlein in Glory Road: "Then I did the only really brave thing I have ever done in my life: I inched forward. Bravery is going on anyhow when you are so terrified your sphincters won't hold and you can't breathe and your heart threatens to stop"
Me: 43 XW: 43 T15 M14 D21, SS15, S11, D8 BD: 8/6 EA / possible PA discovered 9/29 D final 10/20