Doing all right

[BrightFuture]

Bea, Job, thank you for coming to my rescue again. I wanted to post more about the wedding matter. You are both right, and I will follow your advice and say nothing to the family. My son doesn’t seem to be bothered by this, so I will rest my case. Even though it just brought a lot of hurts from the past.

H’s family (except his brother who lives near me) always treated me like I didn’t completely belong to the family. I’ve accumulated some resentment over the years, especially that H never really stood up for me. He was a bit detached from his family too, so it was not a big deal to him.

Bea, you are so spot on. H’s family is probably the main catalyst for his MLC. All his siblings have some issues when it comes to the relationships.

I just cannot understand what is behind some decisions H’s family makes. I’ve been linked to H’s older brother and his daughter (the one who is getting married in two weeks) on LinkedIn. She actually wanted to keep a contact with me, because she wanted to follow my carrier path and wanted some advice. But, she didn’t invite me to her wedding.

Her brother, H’s nephew, was my son’s friend when we lived in the same state and same neighborhood. He sent me a LinkedIn invite a few months ago, to which I didn’t respond. Then, he invited me and my son to his graduation a couple of months ago. So, what is different with this? Why invite us to graduation, but not to the wedding?

And on top of that, the wife of the older brother sent me a B-day card with a letter in it, saying that she misses talking to me. We never talked after we moved from that state. Why now? I just don’t get it.

Job, thank you for this:

I would rise above their behavior and show them the Bright that we all know and love. It's their loss if he's not invited.

It really makes a difference to have this kind of support and understanding.