Mighty, I can follow… and I care… and I don’t think that you are a crazy person (even though I think this about myself in a similar situation, LOL.) I have the same issues, you can tell by my posts. I contemplate before I respond to H’s communication which became very seldom recently. Every time I ask a question on this board, Job gives me an advice to be polite and treat H like I would treat a friend. But, in my sitch there is no OW.
You situation is different. But I still think that by being polite and saying simple “thank you” you convey a message that you are a better person and that you are going on with your life just fine.
Yes, the connection is always going to be there. It seems like your xh is trying to keep some kind of control on you. Or, maybe he just wants you to be around. Like my H, who said that he didn’t want to completely lose me, he was just not in love with me. Even our mutual friend has commented that H had this crazy idea in his head that we will be the best friends.
I have this feeling that you will become OW to your xh in a few months, when the grass dies on the other side, LOL.
You are still in control, Mighty!
M:50 H:52 S28 (my S from previous marriage) M:17 + 3 BD: 06/12 S: 06/12 - H works in another state
