Matt, I'm just going to say it. Let the father thing go. It is eating you up...making you go round and round.

He is who he is. Your w is who she is right now. No amount of analyzing is going to change it.

You dont have to like it, but, you do have to accept that is what it is at this moment.

It is weighing you down. It is sapping your energy. Energy better spent on you and your kids.

Let it go. Leave them to their stuff. Your job is to get out of the way of it.

Trust me I know that you want to get your mind around it. We tend to want to understand as a way of accepting things.

But you know how it isnt logical for a child to get cancer? Its hard to accept.

You cant get her and her dad because it isnt logical. Life is like that sometimes. When it is, you just have to let go of the need to understand.

Let it go, Matt.