Hey PW... that is hard, but you have to feel it all, and feel through it. I know you really didnt want the D...but it's reality...something like this was bound to happen sooner or later.
You loved her hard, you had good times, but sometimes people just change. My stbxw did, her father did too, somewhere in his 40's, just turned off...never was intimate with his wife again. He didnt leave (different generation), but left emotionally.
Thing is buddy...you dont know the future. Sometimes things happen for a reason that we are not privvy to. You could get back together someday, after she grows and you grow...OR, you might meet someone so much better for you.
We just don't know where we will end up.
I would recommend doing NC, aside from kid needs, if you aren't already. It has helped me tremendously. Google "loves a game", some great NC resources.
A quote:
Quote:
You must “un-love” them in order to open the way to a new future. A future with someone who deserves you and who appreciates the person you are.
Always tell yourself, when in doubt, what to do – if someone wants to leave you, let them go. If they decide that they don’t want to be with you, then let them go, (you cannot stop them anyway).
I know that it’s hard and feels wrong to ignore the heart. But in this case, you just should. Your rational mind is your friend right now.
Start to “un-love” your Ex now, and you will reach a point soon when heart and mind are in sync. I promise.
Hang in there
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
