Dang, T2, you are awesome! Reading your posts always gives me hope that I will come through this and be better for it! It was my W's dad getting cancer that was the final thing to push my W into her crisis as well. He is still around but not doing well and is the only person in W's life who tells her that she is doing the "right" thing. Such a sad thing to see how they are both so damaged, so scared.
Keep giving us updates and letting us know how things are going. You have earned the happiness you have now, enjoy it to it's fullest!