Thanks the list was easy because I had already made one and was adding and subtracting behaviors as I came to see them.
So to give you a little back story we live in Baltimore and she works in D.C. When I left my job to take over being primary caregiver for the boys I started to do things to help her out when she got home. I agree over time it became part of my routine like with the boys.
I am the disciplinarian in the home because of how much time I spend with the boys. We do disagree with there punishments. Lately before I dole out punishment I talk with my W and we come to an agreement. I also explained that while It may seem like I am being strict most of the time this is not even remotely close to the first time this has happened.
As far as making her feel special things have changed a lot. When she is home I always make sure that there is fresh flowers in our room. I also make sure she has all the snacks she likes for her. I have also started to make sure we do something every weekend as a coulpe. I told her that we were going to try a lot of things. Some we may like some we may not like but something.
I have also found out that she likes going to the gym with me. Yesterday was a good day for us. She called a lot asking about my days and the kids. She then called and said that I know that you don't have practice are you going to the gym. I told her yes and that I would meet her there. So she called me before I got there and asked if I wanted any water and I said sure this is new because she usually just buys for herself. So we went to the gym and she asked for help a few times which she never does. After I asked if she was hungry and she said yes so we went out and had dinner. When it was time to leave she said did I want dessert and I said ok but she wanted it for another place. It started raining so I took her to her car and held the umbrella for her. I have been doing a lot of little things that I hope make her feel special. The sentence where she doesn't complete I think she felt that I would not value her opinion. I have made it a large part of what I am trying to do is show her she can talk to ke. She opens up more and more every week . I know my faults when it co.es to my W they were insensitivity, being passive agressive, and dishonesty. I have been actively trying my best to make sure they don't come back into play. We also had a heap of misunderstanding between the two of us form bad communication. I make sure that we are now both on the same page when I can. If there is a misunderstanding I try to talk with my W and see where we went wrong.
