First post - My WAH story

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Hi Lisa,

Thanks for the input. I actually don't think the issue is with LF or OW. For one thing, he didn't meet LF until a month after he said he was done. At this point, I suppose it could be an EA. What's weird is that that would have really bothered me about a month ago and now I just don't give a crap.

The other reason I don't think it's OW, is because right after he said he was done, his sister, who was super supportive to both of us (and was telling me on the side that she hoped we would R, even though she was not saying this to H), was encouraging him to go out and date. She was pushing him extra hard to sign up for Match.com. Her words to me were, "I love you and I know this isn't what you'd want me to tell him, but I think he needs to go out and date to realize the two of you really do have a connection. Plus if he goes out and dates now, it'll be a disaster, which I think will help your case." When she pushed him to date, H pushed back and insisted he wasn't ready and wouldn't be for a long while. As of July she was still encouraging him to date, and he was still insisting that that wasn't what he wanted.

I think he was pushing really hard for the email and for his status change on FB because of the birthday party this weekend. Like changing your status on FB beforehand is really going to make people at the party be totally accepting and non-inquisitive? I have no idea what he's thinking about this matter, and frankly don't care anymore. I'm just glad I won't be there.

I mean no offense to anyone whose spouse is having an A, as I don't know what it really feels like, so take this with a grain of salt, but I almost feel like it would be easier for me to accept my H walking away if he was involved in an A. It's almost extra insulting that H just wants to walk away without any viable prospect. Like, am I really that sucky that you're willing to just head out, hoping you'll find someone? Plus, then I could see it blowing up in his face and for him to be willing to give our M another shot.

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P.S. In other news, I plugged a curling iron into the socket in my bathroom, and now the darn thing will not unplug and the socket underneath it won't work anymore either. I wrestled with it for five minutes, and the freaking thing is stuck. *facepalm*