I'm planning on letting H take the floor and lead. My personality will most certainly not allow me to be quiet but I wonder what do we tackle tonight. We are using my C so he knows SOME of the situation. He does not know about OW because I haven't seen him since May and hadn't brought up the thought of it.
A big issue H and I have is the financial aspect. He has blown over 20k since leaving. I just don't know how to deal wth this. It's money we definitely didn't have to waste. Between lawyers and apartment, etc. I'm pretty upset about it. Especially since I accrued NO debt or spent any extra money other than what I made with running this household without him and with not much financial support from him. So many things run through my mind -- that was our savings! He says he will rebuild it and replace it. I know this is not a major breaker but it is just another thing thrown in on top of dealing with the A that I struggle with.
Of the things people cite as reasons for divorce, financial pressures are right up there.
I think it is a reasonable concern of how to move forward financially. I think one thing that may help is to do some reading on financial planning. As well as the old classics like budgeting, etc.
Whatever path you come up with there, stick to it and hold each other accountable.
Me: 43 M: 10y S:15 ILYBINILWY 2/18/13 W moved out 2/18/13 Filed for D: 2/17/13 Got DB: 2/20/13 Got DR: 2/23/13 180 & LRT Began: 2/25/13 D Final Dec '13
