it will be a year for me in about two weeks -- it happened three days after our first date, after we thought the kids were old enough for a sitter (I know, I know, big mistake -- I should have figured out how to do this before) -- there was nothing to talk about, we had lost touch, lost each other --- my wife experienced several significant triggers earlier, though -- oddly, I have found it hardest to put all the pieces together after BD; before then, I thought we were suffering together, celebrating together (ie. what I thought love was) -- I was very wrong -- love is a gift where you intentionally suffer on your own so your partner can take a break and may not have to suffer as much -- and have spent significant time thinking now about what I would do differently ...
