Heart makes some great points in what is really an awesome post, Tar. As men, we might not see a big difference between stating "it was wrong" vs. "it hurt me," but I'll bet you most women receive each very differently.
Your wife may feel you have been way too focused on "let me tell you where what you did was WRONG," and maybe has never heard your "what you did HURT me."
Or, maybe she still won't care. That's always a possibility too. But it's worth exploring.
Starsky, who although he speaks fluent "Mars" does know a little "Venus," too
