I guess my mind was mush reading Labugs question regarding boundaries. I have set some very firm boundaries in regard to H in many aspects
1. Absolutely no contact with ex boss and the family including OW and anyone in that social circle (which includes one of my used to be very close friends that I found out are not as good of friends as I thought)
2. New job - I would not even think about R if he didn't
3. Marriage counseling - same as the new job
4. Separate bank accounts for however long I determine. We continue to split household expenses and things for the boys 50/50. I will keep my second job to support myself and pay some debt off.
5. Intimacy - H went for a full STD test. As I will not have anything to do with him until that is done.
6. H has asked for one night a week for just us - whether it be dinner, movie at home, gym, etc. so that's something I think is good
