it's no wonder that you feel overwhelmed right now. You are basically a single parent right now, going through the biggest emotional upheaval most people will ever have to face and now you have a job search and house worries thrown into the mix? Its too much, and I say that from my limited personal experience, because I'm basically in the same boat (in my case I'm employed, but if I'm going to keep my recently purchased house after the divorce, I'm going to have to get a job that makes more).
For me it helps to break things up into manageable chunks. Last week, I was in a tailspin about my husband's living situation. That seems to have stabilized - so for the next week I'm going to work on house stuff (mine has been disorganized since the move, too). Next week, I'll map out a plan for job search/promotion. Your husband is gone for 10 days, right? Give yourself a vacation from thoughts of him (you've been at this for over a year- you deserve one), and of trying to DB your marriage. Pick something else to focus on, and as many others have said here - do something for yourself to help you recharge.
