Could you say something like 'I'm not interested in your past emails etc, I just need reassurance for the future'?
I tried telling her that- even that she could delete any old emails before sharing access with me, but she's convinced I would search and search. 'Even if delete it, you'd find a way to dig it up.'
That's why I pretty much dropped the subject and plan on waiting til MC. There's nothing I can say that will get her to trust me right now (ironic, huh?). This conversation is one reason I posted my 'Recovering from A' post in the Infidelity forum- up until this point I've given her every indication that I would 'need' details. I think she obviously would be more comfortable if I didn't. Would also be a 180 for me...
