The dance of pursuit and distance raises the interesting question of the way in which we love. Both parties are needy and feel unloveable.
For either party to break the cycle frees then to love in a more unconditional and less needy way. I have learnt that I can live without my former husband's approval and love. I do not need it to be happy and fulfilled. It is much more important to love than to need to be loved back (that is a nice-to-have but not the driver of loving).
