Me: If you want to bring the kids down for a beach day on Monday it is supposed to be better weather by then. Afterwards if you want you and I can go watch the Miami game somewhere.
Her: Ok, I will let you know
Sunday evening:
Me: Did you want to bring the kids to the beach tomorrow?
Her: No, I think I'll stay around here
I get why THIS^^^ disappoints you. I do. I would not read a lot into it, but sure, I get why it's not "positive'...
Me: Ok. Can I come get the kids in the morning? (was not supposed to get them till after school Tuesday)
Her: Maybe breakfast at Cracker Barrel?
THIS^^^^ IS A POSITIVE>...I understand why you chose to pull back - but why are you pretending nothing positive happened?
Me: I can just come get them
Her: What time?
Her: Were you thinking?
Me: Mid morning
Her: Ok text me before you leave
Definitely no friendly W right now. While I thought long and hard about how to answer the breakfast question, as much as i thought maybe it would be good to go and show her some PMA and be friendly, I decided to not be too available. After all, I took a chance and out of the blue asked her to a beach day. This was after I kinda shut the door on her for the week as I posted earlier.
To be fair, couldn't SHE write almost the same things you have written here about your reactions to her? Seriously.
You guys are in some stand off now waiting for the other one to make the first 4-6 moves....which is a killer position in marriages.
So many people do that and ask me why THEY must "make the first move(s).
to which I reply, "because you are here, (on a marriage saving site) and your spouse is not.
You must make the first 1001 move....and maybe the 1002nd too...."
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M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
