Dealing with WAW part 5

[pilot]

Thanks 25. Yea, her friend and H are really a strange bunch. While W and I were married 'happily' W would frequently tell me that this 'friend' was always looking for something to be wrong in our marriage because we were just too happy with eachother and did not fight. W used to say that this friend was either jealous or just wanted something to be wrong with us to make her feel better about her own M.

So my rational mind pays no attention it. It was just for some reason, it really felt like my gut was being ripped out. Maybe you are right about the ego thing. I cannot think of a better reason...

As for W not saying a negative thing, neither of us EVER did that to anyone. We never spoke negative about the other to anyone, even our parents. Which is one major reason our S/D came as such a HUGE surprise to everyone (me included).

On the W delaying/letting the petition expire front, I guess I could mind read the positive side...she is confused. And it may very well be true. I met with 2 *new state* attorneys today, and both agreed filing in this *new state* if it came to that would be beneficial to me. Even though they are not lawyers of *old state* they said they could really see no advantage to rushing it through based on what they knew of other state laws. So I guess that takes away the 'legal' pressure to answer the petition before it expires this month. That gives me until Dec. 1 before another petition can be filed. Although both STRONGLY advised that I be the one to file in this state, as filing first has advantages.

Yea, I guess you are also right that all in all, her being confused is a good thing. It is a limbo thing (not good) but it certainly is not a death sentence. I really have no intention of hanging out with the other people. Even when we lived here, I never did. Her H used to work for my development company (contract, not employee) and we had to let him go for poor performance. I always thought they were nice enough people though, just not much in common with them. My W was her friend because she was one of the first people she met when she moved to my town (4 months prior to meeting me)

Thanks again 25. I feel I should go do something really dumb to get a 2x4 from ya

btw, igit was looking for you and your wisdom. might want to head over to his sight. he and I have very similar situations going on and he could use ya.

Thanks agian...