I'm sad you are now a member of our club, but you will find good support here. You sound like a very strong person. Use this strength to focus on you and your children. The best thing to do is GAL (get a life). Go do things for YOU and try not to read into anything your H says or does. Follow Cadet's advice. Those links were good and until they are restored, find out anything you can about MLC.
It will be a roller coaster ride, so hold on tight!
Atsbaby M:36 H:35 T: 19 M:12 S:11 D:9 BD: 5/4/14 Proof of OW 8/13/14-love note from her 8/19 admits OW 8/22/14 files D w/o telling me 9/20/14 Says he wants to reconcile