Thanks GB and Heather. Those were good responses. I sent:

I am glad you and the kids got together today. They had a good time, but don't come into the house anymore.

He texted: Whatever

I know it sounds harsh, but I do have reasoning as to why I just got to it. First, he does not care what I am comfortable with or not, which was my first thought to put was(but realized it states my feelings more than my boundaries. And he does not care about my feelings nor understand why I feel that way, and that is why I have to get straight to the point).

We really aren't on cordial terms. We aren't on crazy terms either. We have not spoken once since the nuke. He has not been able to grow a pair and face up to anything, so I don't see any reason, at this point, for me to go out of my way for him. I am not rude or mean- indifferent would probably be the best way I try to be and feel. I try my best not to show any emotion. Maybe it could be construed as rude, but... I have not been necessarily friendly, but I have not said anything negative or attacked, or anything like that. I state the facts and that's that.

I feel way better having sent it. I get so annoyed, because I don't want to communicate with him at all. It is just so hard because we have not spoken since the nuke. He made a choice. I don't have to do anything for him as far as I'm concerned. Does it mean I will always feel this way? Nope, but as long as he pretends like what he did is fine and he did not cause catastrophic damage to his family, I have no time for him. I am not just going to go along with is crap just because.... I have always accepted his crap and was there for him. Uhhh... I think he went a little too far here. Not so much, buddy. Don't come into my house. Period. I don't go walking around his when he isn't there. In fact, the first place he lived when he moved out was top secret! He wouldn't even tell me where it was. Not that I would have gone there- I was giving him space. I respected that.

OK, well, day in the life....



Ugh... well anyway, I did have some flowers out that my friends mom sent me (the card wasn't attached). So maybe he's wondering about that??? Probably didn't even notice. He was checking out the new bathroom though. Told the kids I did a good paint job. Was asking them lots of questions, trying to find out what work I, personally, did on it.