afraid I have waited too long #4

[nit84]

Reading over some threads tonight and a thought just occurred to me.

This may have been discussed many times over but I don't think I have seen it.

We, as LBS most often get blamed for not seeing how bad our M is and not taking steps to correct it. My W for instance, is good for this one. "How can you walk beside someone for so long and not realize how miserable they are? If you just could have seen my misery sooner maybe things could have been different."

Now W is right in the fact that I did not for whatever the reason see how really "done" she was becoming or maybe I did but whenever I tried to right the ship I did it in the wrong way.
so here we are at this point.

Now could the same not be said for the WAS? Us LBS's have attempted to DB and if we do it correctly. We will have been able to become a person only a fool would leave.

Learned what mistakes we made in the M and our blame for the awful place we are now. We know we can make it on our own but for the moment we are choosing to stand for our M.

Why then can we not turn it around on the WAS and blame them for not seeing the changes/improvements we have made and if they would just have trusted these changes even a microbit then things could turn out different?

I am not suggesting we flaunt our changes to them but it would be nice to figure out a way to allow the WAS to see these changes(if there are truly changes) without telling them.

I know blaming my W will get me nowhere but way back in the recesses of my mind I would love to be able to say " How can you keep ignoring these changes that I am making for myself that is allowing me to become a man that would make a great husband to you again? I wish you could have seen this sooner before more hurtful things have taken place to put our M in further Jeopardy."

Am I completely screwed up?