Jacket .... just caught up on your sitch ... and I can completely understand where you are at.
Its a rollercoaster none of us want to be on ... seems the trick is to own the darn rollercoaster, I know for me ... when the WAW realized the $$ was no where near what she thought it would be (through a free mediation session) that started (hindsight here in full effect) a number of actions. Then when I announced I would no longer fund her affair ... it again pushed the issue further, I did not tell her to end the A ... I just informed her it was disrespectful to me, our S, our marriage, our family and even to her parents ( a truth dart )
So I read where He is in a fog, he thinks the D will end him up rich and free ... mine did too, and then they start to realize the Willy Wonka Factory is not all gummy bears and chocolates ... I was at the end of my rope and about to let it go, then things started slowly changing, my GAL, regaining my confidence .. not for the WAS ... for ME. Do these things for you and once you sort yourself out then you can see what YOU want and if you want your WAS in your life, you need to gain the power of your own life and actions. Reading your last few posts (2x4 time) looks like you want him to suffer, rub it in his face ... thats all fine and dandy but does that get you where you need to be, ... probably not ... look at your goals, get yourself right ... then decide if you want to let that rope go or hang on and see what happens.
Either way .. you have many people in your corner ... Good luck.
