Igit newbie needs help part 3

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Pilot, I appreciate your input in my sitch. It is a lonely thing to go through. Thank goodness for this board and friends like you. there is a movie called fireproof.it has the 30day do something nice for W everyday. after 30days it mentally becomes a permanent fixture in there mind! I don't know if it works for our R but heck desperate times makes for desperate measures. the problem of course is W has checked out for now! Its hard to draw them back! all thru out this mess, whenever W would see me GAL and going out she became more touchy feely giving me hugs , hugs and more hugs. after I was served and took it rather well, she came into my room and wanted to hug me. I needed to get out of my home for the night. she saw me leave and wanted me to come back, she even offered to stay with me in <our> my room. I know I shouldn't mind read! But What are you doing hugging me ! If you have no feelings of love for me then why hug me! Is it guilt? I just don't get it! I am trying to be super dad super roommate with her adjustment to new job> I know she is watching me! I don't know the best approach other than be best me! AND LOST DESIRE TO BE ANGRY! It has gotten easier! I know it doesn't help so a few weeks back when she was spewing I just left room. she asked me to come back she wasn't finished, I told her I would talk to her later I didn't want to fight. When I received summons she told me they were going to call her 1st before they did this! she said she was angry at them and they were not supposed to do it! I didn't ask but thought would it have made a difference. I did look up conty site and saw she filed on 7-25 my 12D birthday! Nice! then she gets a job 2 weeks later and asked me if I would commit to helping w kids! so she filed before job! I dont know how she could expect me to be D and still share a home with her until June! She apparently thinks I will! oh well thanks for input Pilot! Pilot it sounds to me like you treated your W like a princess! great efforts on bdays etc...I am sure that is something she will never forget! hang in there! Her life is going to get more complicated by the day! Be there as a friend! Its something she will need from you before she is ready to recommit.