Forgive me, MLP, as I haven't read your entire thread, but in reading this page, I'm wondering if you've read Codependent No More? Even though my H and no one in my family are alcoholics, I still found it really helpful.
Me: 35, H: 37, no kids Together since 2002, Married since 2007 IDKIILY: 2/2013 MC: 5/2013-6/2014 H stated he was REALLY done: 4/2014 I moved out 7/6/14 H filed end of 8/2014 but still hasn't served me