I was doing so good

[Maybell]

Oh, I want to chime in there, Dawgy... my H threatened to leave for months. Then he sent me a four page letter about how little he feels for me anymore and how urgently he had to get away from me. Then... he didn't go anywhere.

We talked about it in MC and he was adamant that that was how he felt, but he wasn't quite ready to go. I finally had to tell him, "It hurts too much to live under this threat. If you need to go that badly, then GO. You're being unfair to me."

He left that afternoon. That night, I got the first sound sleep I'd had in probably over a year. IT WAS SO WORTH IT.

This is not how I want things to be. But I was eating myself alive living in the thick of it. It was impossible to see anything good about him. Now, at least we have a fighting chance.

Think of it as a tactical retreat rather than a defeat. Remember that the worst case scenario has really already happened, and now you're just adjusting your living conditions to match the reality. Remember also that life is long and you don't know what the future holds, so do what makes you stronger for the future rather than hanging on to the fraying rope in the present.

You really, really will be OK.