Dawgy, I'm sorry she got the lawyer and the OM plan.
Look at it as a turn of the page. What does it actually change? I know in my situation that while H was at home things were AWFUL. It wasn't till he moved out that I was able to grow. It wasn't till he moved out that he saw that OW was not a long-term option. Things didn't start improving between him & me till he moved out and I got the tiniest bit of perspective.
Try not to panic. Or try to see the positives in the situation. Believe it or not, there are some.
Best to you, and hugs.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15