Thanks Sandi I did what you said and as far as my R with others the negative list was a little short. The list with my W was a little longer and I think the biggest issue we have is with dealing with the kids. Our arguments about the kids differ in she just wants the problem solved and I want to see where the problem starts and then help the kids in correcting it. Her way is to just do it herself and my way is to find out why or why not they have felt with the problem. So l now i've been allowing her to solve the problem and then talk to the kids about how we can stop this. I do have a plan and the first part is ongoing and that is showing the W I am there for her. In conjunction with this is reintegration into the family. This has been a little harder because she has no patience t and it's tough on everyone. It's working because she called me this morning and asked if we could take the kids go-kart racing this weekend. I said we have to check the schedule but I think we can. This is the first thing that she asked to do as a family that was not going to the park, pool or one of the 3 museums we have here.
