Dawgy, don't worry about what others will think. Focus on yourself. Your boys need you now more than ever. One of the first pieces of advice I received from a friend after BD, was to be a rock for your kids. They need stability and a role model (especially if your W is making poor choices). No matter what happens between you and your W, one day your boys will look back on this time and admire you for standing strong and being there for them. Everyday I wake up with pride knowing I'm doing what's best for my kids. And I can see how much respect and love they've gained for me in everyday interactions.
