You and your W really do have a bad communication problem. Yes, she should know you want to see him. Maybe she is waiting to see if you will ask, IDK. What is holding you back? Pride? Stubbornness? An invitation?

If I were in your shoes, it would be a problem for me too, b/c I have to battle the same kind of pride & stubbornness. However, I can tell you that you can't afford to have either one right now. Not if you want a reconciliation. Your side of the story makes sense to me, but if she told her side.....maybe hers would too.

With the communication being a problem, I wouldn't take chances.....if you want a R.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!