Need to figure out how to move forward (thread #4)

[nit84]

Shodan,

I am exactly where you are at the moment. I do not care where she is at or with whom. I haven't asked her or even gave the sense I give a poop what she does.

I do wonder if I should tell her to move now instead of when she is ready(who knows when that is) but I know that is not the way to go.

I just keep my patience go about my business and live like she is not there. I do watch and observe her when we are both at home. She is acting different not towards me but just different.

This confuses me but I just vent to a close friend instead of my W.

The only problem I see by being patience like this and not speaking up is I feel like I might be allowing my W to cake eat. I certainly don't want to give W that impression but If I speak up even in a calm manner I feel my W will somehow turn it around on me and then in her mind be able to justify her position as a WAW.

I know DB is counterintuitive and that is why I am doing what I am doing but sometimes the anger does rear its ugly head and I leave before I screw anything up.

I am moving on with my life also in every way I can think of except dating. I am not telling my W this just showing her. It is very difficult to show that you have moved on with your life without dating or filing for D yourself. But those are 2 things I can't do.


Hang in there!!