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Elsa - nice to get the validation from the MC regarding over-clarification. That would have been useful for H to hear I think. Sounds like we both need to work on trying to convey that we want to truly understand what our Hs are saying and learn to do that in a more loving way that they find less conflict-y. That or our Hs just need to get a grip and deal with it already!

Joe - thanks for stopping by. So far I'm not pushing but I am struggling to figure out what is working in regards to getting him through the fog. I have so little contact it's just so hard to know. I suppose one thing I did notice was the shift from anger in the initial couple of weeks (I saw him once at a mutual friends farewell party early on) to just general sadness when we met up at around the 9 wk mark.

Today marks 3 months since he moved out. In that time we've seen each other 3 times (once more for him to pick up his stuff in addition to the above) and he's initiated maybe 5 or so text conversations (all of a practical nature). Actually looking back the texts look more business like and cold now than earlier on.

In other news, I'm just back from my GAL activity (volunteering with Red Cross -> training to be a peer educator to support youth attending music festivals). Tonight - as I laughed away at the jokes the program manager was making - I found myself wondering if/when my H ever made me laugh like that. Will he ever again? And how old is the program manager anyway ;-)

It's just so hard to imagine that we can come back from here…