This is terrifying - I hope you understand

[Shakspr]

Just backslid something fierce. W, after being gone for 3 days to her aunt's returned and wanted to talk D details. Apparently our date is set for 10/20.

Anyway, it set me on edge, caught me offguard, whatever. But I kept my cool and departed the situation with minimal damage (asked a "Why" question - oops.) Went over to a friend's to blow off my anger in a safe environment. Left feeling better and centered.

Came home, went to bed. W asked me why dog wasn't in crate. Said dog is in bed with daughter. W said, well, she's still peeing and pooping in the house. I responded: Why do you even care, it's not like it's going to be your house anymore.

She left, returned a few minutes later, pissed. I managed myself much better this time around. I apologized and acknowledged that I shouldn't have talked that way. There was more, mostly her being angry and denying that she's angry. She's been putting up with this crap for "years." I responded that I'm hurting, and human, and angry at the moment about the whole situation, that she's tearing my family apart and there's little to nothing I can do to stop her. And that, in that moment, where a dog pees or poops seems pretty damn trivial to me compared to what she's doing.

Good Lord, this stuff is hard.