Excellent. I'd try to focus this week in MC on H and validating his needs. If you have to give things you want H to work on, I'd suggest you start small. Pick something he'll be comfortable enough changing. He's probably not as far on his journey as you are, and he's the one who's not so sure about the marriage, so asking for big change is a bit much.

Maybe ask for more fun together? My IC mentioned that talking about the R is usually not as good as just sharing fun experiences.

If you get the sense he's ready to be reflective and make changes, you could go for something more tangible. I'm willing to bet he's not there yet though.

Just a thought.

Me: 34 W:33
T: 10 M: 6
S: 6 D: 5
BD: 5/14
Still together(ish)
Not giving up: 7/14
D talk has slowed, a lot.
Gradually working on things together. Still separate bedrooms.
Slow and Steady wins the race.