Thanks again, Joe. Acts of service is hard when we're not living together, I think. When he was here, I was trying to do "his" chores -- taking out the trash, walking the dogs, etc -- more often. But when he's at his own place, it's hard to find things to do for him.
I did give him a "win" this week, in that I'm going to let him come over and watch D7 when I have a meeting on Thursday instead of hiring a babysitter. It's something that he's asked to do, and this week it makes sense for me to use the sitter on a different night, so I offered Thursday to him instead, which he seemed to appreciate.
Of course, offering him Thursday was predicated on the idea that we would have MC on Thursday before my meeting. When I called him to talk about childcare, he said that slot was taken and we'd have to choose another time. We agreed on Tuesday night instead (hey, it's sooner -- even better!). I said, "Can I count on that time?" -- meaning that H will call the MC back and also arrange for childcare -- and he said yes.
Then I got to thinking today . . .
That conversation with H happened on Saturday. It's a holiday weekend and the MC's office is almost certainly closed today. What if H waits until Tuesday morning to call back, and the MC isn't available anymore? I realized how much I've been depending on this appointment to get me through the weekend.
Not to mention, my H is a huge procrastinator, and I don't get the sense that he puts the same amount of urgency on this appt that I do . . .
So, I texted H a friendly, "Hi! Just wanted to see if you've confirmed our appt" message. Thankfully, he replied that we are confirmed for Tuesday. WHEW!
So, a time when I should have trusted my H, but didn't. I'm going to file this under "Reasons to Believe That He Has the Power to Change" for now.
