barely holding on - 3

[u-turn]

I don't feel that I have been clear about my boundaries and this is also biting me.

I am going to tell her - either a short letter or verbal:

Mrs. U-turn - I know that I have told you that I can forgive you, trust you again, and move on from this, but I now know that this is going to be a process. I do care about myself and have boundaries.
-I can not live in an open marriage.
-The relationship that you have with OM does not make me feel safe in maintaining our relationship.
-Keeping even a friendship with OM puts too much doubt in my future with you.

I think she will deny that there is still a relationship with OM at that point. I can tell her about my suspicions and things that I have noticed from the past months.

Just playing this out in my head - and here first. I know this is probably not being patient, but shouldn't these boundaries be stated - or is it pushing too hard?

Thoughts?