Need to figure out how to move forward (thread #4)

[shodan]

This morning I told my kids I was going to yoga and then would take them to Starbucks. My W asked "are you doing now?" I said I was going to a 845am class. She said she was going to a class at 915am in the next town over with an instructor we both like. She intended for me to say "ok, I will go with you." Instead, I said "have fun" and then left.

I know right now I am pushing her to the OM. But I am going to trust in the process. He who cares the least has the most power. I need to gain the power back. Unlike a few weeks ago when I would have jumped at any chance to be with my W, I have said no to those offers on a few occasions during the past few days. I will not pursue, I will not care where she is and with whom.

At the same time, I want to confront her and just say "you should move to NYC and get an apartment so you can live out your fantasy life. if you wake up from the fantasy and want to come back to our reality, our M, our family, we will be here in Boston. In the mean time, I am moving forward because I deserve better."

Does that sound like a bad idea? Or should I just be patient and let this play out?